Okay, let me just say this.
Someone out there is thinking, at least you have the baby. I know that someone is thinking this because I've been thinking this.
And you know what? It doesn't help.
It still hurts.
For those of you just joining us, my mother-in-law died. She lived with my husband and myself, and she was central to our life. H and I met, married and tried to conceive, and all the time Mama was the center of our universe.
And being without her still hurts.
My life after I got what I wanted most - a baby
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- Nica
- OTP Atlanta, Georgia, Atlanta, United States
- Hello there. I started blogging whilst trying to balance too much -- infertility, miscarriages, elder caregiving for a crazy (as in Alzheimer's) mother-in-law. And now that things have changed, I find myself mourning parts of my before-life. Welcome to the After Life
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so glad to see that you are still blogging. I found your last blog just a few months ago but felt a strong connection because of the overlaps our lives seem to have. People used to tell me that I should give up trying for a baby because my grandmother was my person to take care of. I still don't get how anyone could think it was the same muscle in your heart...
I am so so very sad for your loss. I lose a bit of my Grandmother everyday and yet I still can't imagine her not being here.
xo
since I can't leave my blog url in the comments I'll leave it here:
http://creatingmotherhood.com
Oh Nica, there isn't any reason to compare. Your grief over losing Mama is real and true and you have to have it. The fact that you have Spunketta doesn't mean you don't feel the grief of this loss or that you shouldn't or don't have any right to it. I'm so sorry you are so sad and hurting. I'll be thinking of you and I'm happy you've found a new home. I'll keep visiting.
Sweetie, I am so so sorry. I can't imagine there is anything that makes a loss easier.
I'm sure it does. Wish I could give you a hug.
I've been thinking about you and sending you and your family good thoughts, Nica.
*hugs*
xx
You lost someone near and dear, and obviously you are grieving.
Selfishly, I am very happy you are back. I've missed you.
Grief is a process, don't rush it nor apologize for it. You are justified to hurt, and be angry, and to rant against loosing Momma. We're here for you!
I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine that anything would take away the pain. (((hugs)))
I think its especially hard because she was such a part of your life, your routine, your world. I know I miss people and they were not half as much in my daily routine as she was with you guys.
Sorry for your pain. I wish you peace and comfort.
I found you through Stirrups. I'm so sorry and I'm thinking of you
I think about you a lot when I'm going through my blog feeds. I'm so sorry. Thinking of you!
Nica I'm so sorry for your loss. You both need to take time to grieve and be there for each other. We will all be here when you're ready to blog again.
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